It’s Not Your Fault

It’s Not Your Fault

This is a post for other bereaved dads, so is unlikely to be of interest to anybody else. As always, it’s unapologetically cathartic and I hope it helps anybody else on this journey. It comes from a good positive place with the best of intentions. The seminal scene in...

Oops, therapy.

It’s been over 3 years since my last post about grief, which is probably a good thing. In that time, I’ve been to hospital for two grief-related incidents and finally accepted that I needed some help. It’s been a bit of a ride. There is a lot of...

Sorry. I was a bit angry.

(Note: this post was written almost 5 years ago. It has now been superceded by Oops, therapy which explains how, despite my protestations, my anger issues continued for some time and finally led me to counselling. As with my other earlier posts, I considered deleting...

Let the fire burn

Of all the emotions associated with grief, anger is the one I have struggled with most. And it’s at its worst when others try to tell me to calm down. I know that they mean well but, as I have discovered throughout this journey, what follows is better out than in....

I Beg Your F***ing Pardon?

 (Please note that I wrote this post whilst still in deep grief following the death of our son. It is rude and full of expletives. I originally deleted it but was asked to put it back up. I’m told that it has helped both the bereaved as well their friends and...